Why you need to quit the job that’s making you miserable 

opinion piece

I get it. I really get it. You stay at that job you secretly despise because you feel you have no other choice. Better to be working in an unhealthy environment than not working at all, right? Right? 

Wrong. It’s all wrong, whatever your preconditioned thoughts on work are. Let me tell you, they are most probably wrong. Inevitably, any of us can end up working a job that we are not happy in. People stay for a myriad of reasons; out of comfort, laziness, financial commitments, fear of the unknown.  

It’s important you understand the message I am trying to portray. I don’t want to inspire anybody to quit their job and end up broke, up to their eyeballs in debt, and quite literally broken. No no no. 

Let’s face it, we spend the majority of our lives at work (assuming full time work). If you spend those days watching the clock, stressed beyond belief, feeling your blood boil; and every Sunday evening you get that sheer feeling of dread. You need to leave and chase your dreams. Time waits for no one. 

Now I do understand the apprehension before leaving a job… you are walking out into the unknown. The act has to be executed, and planned well. Here are my top tips to ensure the transition runs smoothly, and you are promised a happier working life: 

1. Saving face 

If you are staying at a job you aren’t happy in, because of severe financial commitments – this can be very tricky. What I would advise is that you maintain savings as much as physically possible. Set yourself a goal, for example, give yourself three months to save as much as possible and start moving towards your leave. If your bills outweigh your wages, perhaps even try to find a second job (temporarily) just to get you out of your current situation. You could also try selling unwanted items on eBay (believe it or not eBay kept me going when I lost my job a few months ago), having a clear out will also help you to feel more liberated and envigorated. When the time is right and you feel secure, you can hand in your notice and start again. 

2. Temp work 

In London there are so many work agencies that can help you find temp work – and this can be in a variety of industries. This really helps when you are between jobs / careers. It gives a steady cash flow, and you gain experience. You may even find a company that you’d like to stay at long term. Temping is a really great opportunity for graduates and job seekers alike to make up money whilst searching for permanent positions. 

Also, you can be a complete agency whore and sign up to as many as possible. Go with the one whom finds you a role first. 

3. Apply, apply, apply 

Even whilst you are at the job you want to leave, apply for as many positions as you can. If it’s feasible, speak to your manager and explain your situation. You cannot be fired for attending job interviews, you are well within your rights to do so. I know a lot of people feel very awkward about doing this, but I personally feel your manager should respect your honesty. Otherwise, you will continue to do so in secrecy – and this will make attending interviews very difficult. 

Now when I say apply for as many jobs as possible, I think a lot of people misconstrue what ‘a lot of jobs’ implies. I’m not talking about sitting at your laptop and applying for ten jobs. No honey. This is London, there are millions of people competing for job roles. It’s dog eat dog. I would say realistically, every evening apply for 20-30 job roles. 

You’ll start hearing back around two weeks later, this is when you’ll start organising interviews. You’ll also need to filter through and only attend the ones you feel are worth leaving your current job for. There are a lot of fabricated companies / agencies out there that are deliberately looking for staff to exploit. Don’t fall into the trap of leaving your long term job for a short term fail.  

I would advise (and I only know this now after a terrible experience), before attending any job interview to thoroughly research. Research the company itself, and if you have any pejorative gut feeling about the job. Do not go to the interview – they’ll be plenty of others. You see, desperation often makes us deluded, we convince ourselves the situation at hand is fine because we are desperate for a job. It’s important to always keep your cool in this scenario – don’t accept what you don’t deserve. Patience is key. 

4. Part timers 

Another option would be to discuss your situation with your manager, and perhaps have one day off in the week. Or cut down your hours so that you are able to attend interviews – having time off your current role to attend interviews can be one of the harder tasks. Particularly when you don’t get the job, you feel disheartened at losing money by missing work and wasting your time. But you must plough through. There will be hella rejection throughout this process, you have to take the rough with the smooth. 

5. Education is key 

Depending on your situation, perhaps you feel you don’t have enough education or skills to get into the field you want to. Remember you are never too old to learn. If you want to leave your job to study, it’s a great thing to improve your knowledge and skill set. 

Approach your employer and discuss the various options, maybe you’ll leave altogether, or continue to work part time until your studies are over? This really will depend on your personal situation. Another option could be temp work while you study, as there’s little commitment but it’s steady money. 

6. Social security

Now this is going to be an unpopular option, but sometimes it’s necessary. If you do end up unemployed, either by choice or not; remember that the welfare state in this country is there to help you. 

There is such a negative stigma surrounding job centres, and claiming benefits. You have to remember while you are out of work, this is money you are entitled to. It will allow you to have money to attend interviews, you can also claim housing benefit whilst unemployed if you are worried about not being able to pay rent. 

It’s not nice, it’s not glamorous and nobody wants to sign on. But actually it’s a great reality check, and I think it pushes you harder to get a job. 

When you think you have no options, this is always an option. It’s not a fantastic one, but it’s there to fall back on nevertheless. 

Conclusion 

Overall I would say that your health and happiness is what is most important. Chase your dreams, there is no point wasting your time in dead end jobs that make you miserable. I’m only 25, and I have witnessed individuals staying in jobs out of pure laziness, willing to put up with corruption, breaking laws and other terrible misdemeanours that you can’t even imagine. You really have to ask yourself, what am I worth if I don’t have the strength to leave this job, if I am willing to betray my personal morals and make myself miserable, whilst this company grows richer at my expense? 

There is a big wide world out there, and it is scary. But your dream exists out there, ready to be captured. If you don’t chase it, you’ll spend the rest of your life helping others chase theirs. 

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Make Up Revolution ‘Midnight Unicorn’ eyeshadow palette review 

product review

Forever an advocate for amazing budget beauty; Make Up Revolution have been absolutely killing the game recently. Launching cult highlighters, lip kits to rival Miss Jenner…and now this amazingly pigmented Eyeshadow Palette. 

It certainly looks the part! With 16 colourful shades, there really is a myriad of looks you could create using this palette. The blurb claims that the shadows are heavily pigmented, and suited for professional and SFX use.


So does it perform as great as it looks?

The performance (da da daaaaa!) 

I decided to use the palette for the first time on my birthday weekend (great excuse to go OTT with the eye Make up). The colours are as vibrant as they appear in the palette, and they are super easy to blend. I used the pink and black shades, and they lasted 8 hours of drinking cocktails, formidable English rain and a rather humid sushi restaurant. It’s fair to say they got staying power. My only criticism would be the standard brush that comes with the palette is quite hard, it’s stiff and it makes application awkward. I used another of my brushes and they blended nicely. 


Overall 9/10 

I actually can’t pick any faults with this palette. And the fact that I am over excited to get the chance to use it again, really accentuates how fab it is! And you know the best best best part? It’s only £6 😱 

If you don’t buy it, I will seriously have to question your sanity. 

Benefit’s They’re Real Double The Lip Lipstick review 

product review

When I read on the box of this lipstick that it can apply both your lip liner and lipstick for you, I was rather sceptical. This product, if it’s claims are true to form, could revolutionise the game for lipstick wearers, saving us untold amounts of time and money. But am I ready to be throwing out my Mac lip liners just yet…? 


The review 

I overline my lips. I know a lot of people think it’s unattractive, but I believe that I do it in a subtle way. It’s because I can’t afford lip fillers right now, so it’s a cheap alternative that makes my lips look much poutier than they are naturally. For me, lip liner gives me that freedom to draw with precision a curvier shape to my lips; so initially I couldn’t see how I’d be able to do that with a pointed lipstick? 

Upon application, you tilt the lipstick so that you can line using the tip. To my utter surprise it did quite a good job without any smearing! The lines were straight, and despite looking a darker colour to the bulk of the lipstick, the liner actually blended into the lipstick perfectly. 

My only criticism is that as it wears down, (as lipsticks progressively do over time), how well will the tip (the liner part) hold out? If the shape of the lipstick becomes distorted it means it will no longer work with precision? Unlike traditional lip liners which can be sharpened. 

Overall I think the product sucessfully carries out its claim of encapsulating a liner and lipstick in one. However a pencil liner gives slightly more precision, and as mentioned I am apprehensive as to whether this particular product would have longevity. It is helpful for those wanting to save time, and perhaps those who do not use liner or only use it to stop lipstick bleeding (which is probably more it’s actual purpose). 

Overall score: 8/10 

Personally I won’t be binning my liners just yet I’m afraid guys… 

Missbeez – an innovative mobile beauty app 

Events & launches

You’ve all heard about the recent disaster that is TFL refusing to renew Uber’s contract in London? Of course you have. 

But I’m not here to discuss that scandal. Uber is that reliable taxi every Londoner loves on a boozy night out. What could be more convenient than a taxi at your service at low prices? Uber changed the face is transpiration, I’m convinced there will be an entire  generation of people who do not possess driving licences. Simple because a hybrid mixture of public transport and Uber’s are much cheaper than driving in London. Uber tapped into an on demand market. 

So what’s even better than on demand transport? On demand make up and beauty services of course 😍. Missbeez is an app that encorporates just that. You pick the service which you desire, the app searches for relevant beauticians in your local area – you pick one, and you don’t need to pay until after the treatment is carried out. 

I recently had a full face of make up applied by one of their beauticians, all in the comfort of my own home. It’s a brilliant idea for busy individuals – you can book services at the drop of a hat. 


I would recommend this app to every avid beauty fan. You can pick from an array of salon services at regular prices, with the added benefit of not moving from your bedroom. 

Laziness, and beauty treatments on demand!? Sounds like a dream world to me! 

Autumnal faves 

product review

This may possibly be one of the first autumnal posts you read that doesn’t mention pumpkin spiced lattes. Well, frankly because they are becoming overplayed and naff now in all honesty. Plus you consume zero calories make up shopping. At least that’s my warped justification. 


Of course each new season calls for a make up haul (literally any excuse). Typically in Autumn we move to darker lipsticks, extra moisturisation and cosy jumpers to prepare for the colder season. 

Here are my pick of the best buys for Autumn; 

1. Vitamin E Facial Serum, £3.99

I constantly have dry patches all over my face, it looks like I don’t moisturise at all – my face is like the Sahara dessert. This serum from Superdrug is brilliant value; it’s low cost but full of vitamins to enhance and protect the skin. The naturally sourced Vitamin E also claims to protect against environmental damage, meaning the product can be used as an anti pollution moisture boost. Two birds with one stone! 

2. Mary Kay Gel Lipstick In Red Smoulder, $18 (Available on eBay for U.K. Market) 

I’ve always been a huge fan of the classic red lip. A decent red lip ensures any girl feels as glamorous as Marilyn Monroe. This lipstick being a gel semi Matte texture, is not drying. As discussed in a previous blog post – this lipstick is amazing. This is the perfect shade for the autumnal time. A bright red, that isn’t too deep or frightening for the demure amongst us make up addicts. 

3. Mac Lip Pencil in Vino, £13

A deeper darker purple tone for the braver make up enthusiast – make a statement with a bold purple lip. Super fab. 

4. Mii Cosmetics Matte Lip Cream in Power, £16

Much like the Mary Kay Lipstick this lip cream has a great non drying formulation which lasts all day. Would highly recommend for longevity. A deep purple shade, which would be compatible with earlier mentioned Mac lip liner. Purple lips are great for catching attention, and suited to the winter time cold. Think Russian superstar. Yes darling! 

5. Elf HD Lifting Concealer, £4.50 

Great coverage for a bargain price. This concealer lasts throughout my 7 hour working day without flaking / segmenting. 

Good value for money – non drying also which is almost mandatory for the colder months. 

What’s in my everyday make up bag? 

make-up hauls

When you are fortunate enough to review a myriad of products from various brands – inevitably you end up with favourites. It says a lot about those products that you actually continue to use and would agree to buy again. 

Here are my current favourite products that I use daily (and yes that is a My Little Pony make up bag, isn’t it super cute?): 

1. Chanel Soleil Tan De Chanel, £36 

This bronzing make up base is a godsend. Despite the hefty price tag, the quality is well worth the investment. I use it everyday before applying foundation, it provides a natural looking tan and a smooth base. 

2. NYX HD Studio Photogenic Concealer in CW04, £6 

Great great value for money. This concealer even manages to hide my dark circles, which is the equivalent to an actual panda. Hugh coverage without being too heavy on the skin, has longevity also – after wearing it all day it doesn’t crack under your eyes. 

3. No7 Lash Impact Ultra Mascara, £13.50 

I am such a fusspot when it comes to mascara, I like them to be thick but not clumpy. And extra voluminous. This No7 mascara is an absolute beaut, in its glittery casing it looks the part – and performs just as well. After applying just two coats I have thick long natural looking lashes! 

4. No7 Pop & Glow Cream Blush, £10 

I usually use powder blushers, so it’s a wonder I’ve been converted to cream blush. In actual fact it’s much easier to use, just smooth it on and blend it in to your own preference. Previously I was using a powder blush by Charlotte Tilbury which although I was happy using the product, it was so difficult to get it right. The blush was so highly pigmented that one swish too many and you ended up looking like Pennywise from IT. Not a look I would strongly recommend. 

5. No7 Stay Perfect Eyeshadow Trio, £10 

This is possibly the cutest and most useful mini Eyeshadow palette I’ve ever owned. The colours are neutral yet striking, pigmented enough for a day look. However if you want to transition to a night time, more dramatic look you can layer up the darker brown colour. Love this palette. 

6. The Ordinary High Adherence Silicone Primer, £3.90

An absolute steal for £3.90. I’ve mentioned this primer before, but it’s one I’ve been using religiously the last two months. And when it runs out I will be purchasing again. It provides a smooth base for make up, it isn’t greasy and it isn’t overly Matte either. The result is natural, fresh looking make up. 

7. High Definition Beauty Brow Highlighter, £16.50

The best brow neatener I’ve ever used. I will legit cry when this finishes. Makes my brows pop without any effort whatsoever. I outline my brows with this, smudge it with a brush and they look amazing. Real HD effect with little effort. 

8. L’Oréal Brow Artist Sculpt in 01 Blonde, £5.99 

Slightly difficult to get on with at first but I have grown to love this product. The blonde colour is perfect for my eyebrows, and the brush has a clever double side. One part you can use to add colour and definition, the other is an eyebrow brush which you can use to neaten the hairs. AND it lasts forever! 

How the Foo Fighters helped me overcome depression 

opinion piece

Yesterday I read an article on post graduate depression; which I have briefly mentioned in previous blog posts (how to deal with rejection), and it is definetly a thing. Infact, it’s a big thing that needs to be recognised. Once you graduate you are thrown into the big wide world, with the expectation that getting a job is not so difficult. And it isn’t really, if you want a job. If you want a career in something you studied – that may be slightly trickier. 

I went through this awful depression, and I know other people that have experienced the same. You feel down, powerless, useless. I got that dark feeling a few months ago. I had just got what sounded like my dream job after graduating – a marketing executive for an educational institution. It wasn’t journalism which I studied, but I vowed to keep my freelance work on the side and save up to enable me to complete internships for journalism. 

I won’t go into extreme detail as I would quite like to leave this subject to a forthcoming blog post; but this new ‘job’ turned out to be a complete and utter facade. The company was built upon lies – I had left my long term loyal job to work for a scandalous agency! I felt so betrayed that I had been manipulated and indoctrinated into thinking I was entering a completely different type of company, compared to the bleak reality. The only way I can describe this place (I refuse to refer to it as a workplace because it is NOT), it was like being in what I would imagine WW2 East Germany to be like. We were in a room with no natural light, in a cellar type environment. Our ‘manager’ watched us like a hawk throughout the day, talking was not allowed. We had cameras everywhere (the reason for this was never confirmed), and we were all pretty much convinced that these cameras had sound. It was terrifying to me that this type of work place exists – continues to exist and that individuals are subjected to these unhealthy working conditions. 

This ‘job’ came to an end after just two months and I was left with nothing. 

This is when it hit me. Like a ton of bricks. Waking up at 5am daily, shaking and sweating in pure angst. My anxiety had reached new levels. I knew what was causing it but I had zero control over the situation. It was the lack of structure to my day, the innate fear that I would never find a job. The utter self depreciation of consistently telling myself I was no good, useless. You will never get a decent job repeated in my mind like a choir hymn. 

There came a point one random monday I was getting ready to attend a job interview, I put my iTunes on shuffle. Foo Fighters came on, I remember the moment so vividly. Because it was the pivotal moment where my attitude took a turn for the better. It was their song ‘The Pretender’ which had been playing. So much feeling within the song, and the lyrics at that point in time meant the world to me. ‘What if I say that I’ll never surrender?’ 

I continued to listen to the band for the rest of the day, their uplifting, reflective lyrics helped me remember why I even started trying in the first place. And why I would never give up. 

The Foo Fighters are a great example of why you should never give up. Dave Grohl started out his music career in Nirvana, after Kurts death he was traumatised – but made the controversial decision to start another band. For which he received a lot of criticism for. Thr band went through numerous members, and numerous dramas. But they ploughed through, Dave never gave up. 

Eventually their efforts and talents were recognised. But if they would have gone and got a day job and given up on the music dream – they wouldn’t be where they are today. And that’s just it, despite my self depreciation and anxious thoughts ripping at my inner confidence – I won’t give up. I really no longer care how long it takes me to get where I want to be. I know that I will be there one day, and that is comforting enough. It’s enough, you are enough.