How to stay motivated and deal with rejection 

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I feel like after you leave university there is most definetly a lack of direction. And an innate need to find the perfect career right away. Even though we all know it’s going to take ample time, it can be difficult to hang in there. Especially if your current situation / job is making you want to give up on life altogether. 

Personally I continued to work full time after graduating, but even though I have been working (like a dog may I add) 58 hours a week and freelance writing in my spare time (you are right there sparse spare time when you work such long hours but if you have a passion, you simply WILL find time); I felt like a bum because I’m not doing a graduate job linked to my degree or what I have studied. I’m simply working a job to pay my bills, and that’s not what I want. 

So, de-motivated and lacking energy I decided to take charge; scouring job sites for hours on end. Applying for any job even remotely close to what I want to do long term. Spending hours on the phone to recruiters who may have had a suitable position – but I would need to first spend an hour in the evening proving myself to someone I didn’t know. But after all the hours and hours of tedious application. Comes the rejection stage. 

At one point I was receiving so many rejection emails that I was going to save them all, print them out and create a piece of monochrome,sassy art work. But the heart ache wouldn’t allow me to do so. I deleted them straight away, so that I wouldn’t get too disheartened. Even if your story is not the same as mine, we are all in different positions and stages of life. Rejection, unfortunately is something we will all need to deal with. And I think how you deal with it is important. It shows strength of character, it shows that you are not willing to give up, determination prevails and eventually you will be successful. 

I spent four long months applying like a mad woman, spending 100’s of pounds on attending interviews and missing work. But I did it. I got a job with a worthy title. The pay isn’t fantastic, but it’s a role I feel I deserve. 

So with all the rejection, hard work whilst maintaining a full time job.. how did I stay motivated? 

1. Never forget the end goal 

The mind is a strange place, and it can be easily distracted – often when you are attempting something very difficult in life your mind will convince you to try easier routes. Don’t even give in to the temptation. Remember your end goal and stick to it. Even if creating a mood board helps to motivate and inspire you, or writing may help to relieve pressure and share how you feel along the way. Whatever motivates you allow that to positively push you to continue down the difficult, but correct path for yourself. 

2. Surround yourself with positivity

I assure you there will be times where you will have emotional breakdowns. During these times you need strong support systems in order to uplift you, and help you keep going. Whether it be family you can speak to, friends you confide in, or simply crying down the phone to your boyfriend. Let out the frustration and listen to the ones who care for you. They know you will make it in the end, and it’s sometimes easier for them to see it because they aren’t the ones living it. They will remind you to stay positive. 

3. Deal with rejection effectively 

Everybody in the world gets rejected. But you know what, the most successful people in this world utilise it to push them further. Instead of letting rejection get them down, they use it in the opposite way and become even more motivated. Delete the rejection emails and letters, push them to the back of your mind and remind yourself that if this company has rejected you it wasn’t the right place for you anyway. Even after interviews if potential employers don’t even get back to you, just brush it off. Clearly you weren’t right for them. But you will be right for someone out there. 

Happy searching my loves, I hope this post reminds you that you are all worth it. Always strive to be the best and achieve your goals, no matter how difficult. 

Easter special – The three best bargain beauty buys for Spring 

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First of all, I would like to wish you all a lovely Easter. If, like me you are avoiding chocolate like the plague this weekend, I know the intense internal struggle sister. 

But, if you can’t eat chocolate and naughty treats then at least indulge in some beauty retail thez 😍- because there’s always a valid reason to treat yourself.. 

As you know I’m a complete product whore, and have recently starting writing beauty reviews for reallyree.com (hurrah more products – for free)! So I have put together this cute list of ultimate Spring buys, at the moment I am obsessed with cute little unknown brands that don’t cost the earth. Anyone can go into Selfridges and buy a Tom Ford lipstick for £57 and say it’s amazing. But sometimes there is beauty in the unknown, exploring and promoting independent brands. This is also how cult products are found, often accidentally. 

Here’s my pick; 

1. Something for the skin, Dr Manuka CC cream SPF 20, £7.99

Because I’m a firm believer in preserving and loving the skin your in. Everyone who’s anyone has seen Dr Manuka products all over the beauty industry for probably the best part of the last 6 months. I have been so anxious to try the range, so when I spotted the Cc cream in my local Superdrug for £7.99 I could not resist. 

Utilising pure bee venom and manuka honey, the Cc cream delivers an exotic feel for very little money. I decided to stop wearing foundation a while ago – this is my new must have product. You can wear it under make up or alone – it gives radiance to skin, an even coverage (although very light and natural), and has a colour correcting formula. 

Plus it helps to fight ageing, the bee venom promotes skins elasticity. AND it has SPF 20. Is there anything this product doesn’t do for the skin!?

2. Lashed out; Amazing shine 100% human hair lashes in 110, £1.99 

Absolute bargain of the century, discovering these lashes in a back street store in west London was deffo one of my genius moments. They are so cheap I can probably afford a different pair every day of next year. 

Amazing quality (100% human hair), a good range of styles. I have opted for no. 101 which is natural yet glam in my usual whispy style. 

3. Highlighter on fleek; Technic get gorgeous highlighting powder in pink, £3 

The cheapest and best highlighter ever. Put it this way, against my UD highlighter this one is much better value. Ignoring the price tag, it is simple to apply, very pigmented and gives a lovely glow. The best dupe ever. 

Have a lovely, glowing Easter guys 🐣💗

How to (try to) control your anxiety 

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At first you don’t even realise what is wrong with you. Overcome with a cold shudder, accompanied by fluttering palpitations, palms sweaty and confusion. Utter confusion. You can’t move. But hold on, 5 minutes ago you were fine? But now, now you can’t move. You can’t get up. There is a heavy invisible burden upon you. If you do attempt to get up, what if you fall? What if everyone around you bursts out laughing at you falling? 

Silly silly silly intruding thoughts enter your mind at this point and you wonder if it will ever stop. Until you get up, walk for a bit and realise you will be ok. That was it. Your first panic attack. 

The problem is, sometimes we don’t realise we are having one – or worse still we don’t know why they happen. I am referring specifically to panic disorder, whereby sufferers will have intense panic attacks. 

Unfortunately there is no fast cure to ‘healing’ these episodes. But you can overcome it, I managed last year to completely get rid of them. Unfortunately recently I have been under a lot of stress and they have returned to rear their ugly head. Here are my top tips on controlling your anxiety / panic attacks; 

1. Cut off the source of the problem

If you can pinpoint the stress or issue which causes the panic attacks you have a very good chance of ending them. You need to cut it out, whatever it may be. If this is near impossible, for example if your job is stressing you out and you can’t afford to leave. Perhaps discuss with your manager working less hours or moving to another department. You need to home in and pinpoint what aspect of the job is stressing you and causing these episodes. 

2. Coping mechanisms  

Along the way in this intense journey, there are a few mechanisms you can use to aid your recovery and help yourself. 

If you have a panic attack at night and your brain is doing overtime, thus resulting in not being able to sleep. I would suggest investing in some ear plugs, putting relaxing music on YouTube and practising breathing exercises. These techniques, in particular the breathing exercises will really help slow down the palpitations and regulate breathing. (This can be applied any time of day). 

If you have one during the day and you are occupied, you can try the breathing exercises. Or splashing your face with cold water, maybe leaving the room and taking 5 minutes to calm down. It’s jusg about finding out what works for you as an individual, we all suffer for different reason in different ways. 

Last but not least, keep things in perspective. Remember you haven’t always had this disorder, more than likely an event has triggered it. Which means, there is light at the end of the tunnel and you can overcome it. It’s just going to take a lot of mental strength and determination. You got this! 

Is affordable make up a false economy or smart shopping? 

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I’m going to use Rimmels wake me up concealer as the prime example to this much needed debate. (And it is a bloody good concealer by the way, just putting it out there). 

At £5.49 it’s undeniably cheap, yet gives medium – good coverage. However what I have found in the long term is that the cheaper concealers are less thick (in the sense of giving a full coverage not a cakey texture). This means they run out twice as fast as the more expensive brands; I’d say using the Rimmel concealer on a daily basis it could last you perhaps 2-3 months. 

Naturally if you have to keep replacing the product, surely it becomes no longer quite as cheap as you anticipated? In comparison to (just for example sake), Urban Decays naked concealer – which was my previous concealer of choice. Weighing in at £19, but lasting between 7-8 months with everyday use. 

It does make you question whether actually buying cheaper make up does save you money in the long run? The quality is lesser, meaning that you use more product per application, and could potentially spend more or the same amount over longer periods? 

Here’s my advice to get the best bang for your buck; 

Take into consideration regularity of use. For example if you could manage to make the Rimmel concealer last 6 months, of course £11 a year on concealer is an absolute bargain – and cheaper than a majority of high end products. However if you know you use products quite excessively it may be worth investing in a slightly more expensive product, maybe midrange which will last you for most of the year (if you have cheaper ones laying around use them up in the meantime). 

I’m all for shopping smart and not just throwing away money. These are the questions you need to be asking yourself when make up shopping: 

 What products do I already own that are similar? 

Do I actually need this or am I buying it for the sake of it? 

Is this too expensive for what it is – am I paying for a brand name? 

Have I seen a good dupe for this product which will save me money? 

How often will I use the product / can I justify buying it? 

Just being generally more conscious of your consumption patterns and what you currently have in stock at home could help you save a lot of money! 

Happy shopping and happy saving guys 💕 

Sessions by Kate Hughes; amazing pop-up make-up master-classes

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I attended the website launch for ”Sessions by Kate Hughes”. What could be better than a professional make-up master-class that strips make-up artistry back down to basics AND travels to you and your friends!? Sessions by Kate Hughes is just that. It’s a pop up make-up academy which runs over a five day duration and the complexity of make-up skills taught increases daily. All you need to bring along is (your face obvs) and your own brushes!

Kate Hughes has been an established MUA for the last 30 years, and so this business is a natural progression. Armed with lovely business partner Zo, they are destined to become an amazing success.

More about the sessions

Seeing as professional make-up is provided, what particular brands are used? Kate herself has commented, ‘’although we love the high end brands, we want the classes to be accessible and affordable, Lord and Berry is a favourite of ours, and we use a lot of Mac and NYX’’.

Anyone with any level of skill can attend the classes; make-up artistry is stripped down to basics and re-taught. Everything from foundation application to contouring is covered. Kate also mentioned her brand is launching a make-up brush range soon – all beauty obsessives keep your eyes peeled.

What also sets aside Kate’s lessons from conventional master-classes, is that additionally you are taught raw business skills. Including how to pursue a career in make-up artistry, how to network your business online, social media management and more.

Lush red velvet cup-cakes with glitter lips, so fetch

However, what really made this event outstanding, (aside from the amazing red velvet cup-cakes with glittery lips on and Prosecco on tap), was the refreshing atmosphere. When attending a beauty event, there is often a misconception that the professionals in this industry are catty/bitchy. This event was nothing like that – everyone who attended was so humble and lovely. It was fantastic to see bloggers / MUA’s/ journalists all sharing ideas and complimenting one another. It was a real promotion to girl power and entrepreneurship. An absolutely inspirational event with a really uplifting feel, if you ever need your make-up skills brushing up – highly recommend Kate and her wonderful business partner Zo.

Five fun things you can do in London for under £20 

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Let’s face it; as Londoners we moan insistently about the god awful weather, the ridiculous queues everywhere you go (even in toilets), and we moan at how bloody (ever increasingly) expensive everything is! BUT did you know there are a lot of things to do in London that are cheap, entertaining and full of culture. 

I’ve been mentally compiling this list for a while as I’ve been on a mission to save money. So here are my hidden gems: 

1. The Tate Modern gallery 

Many of the exhibitions here are free, and often they offer interactive workshops where you can network with industry professionals. And get involved first hand with the art. (I even got to make a key chain for myself and keep it for free). 

They have some amazing exhibitions which are culturally rich and diverse. 

Expenses for the day: 

Museum entry – free 

Food – You need to be organised and prepare a packed lunch beforehand, this way you spend zero on food 

Travel, train fare to the museum return – £7 

That leaves you with a £13 budget to get something from the gift store! Or save the change? 

2. Picnic at Holland Park 

I mean this one is obviously weather permitting. But definetly on a warm(ish) day, this park is lovely to sit have a picnic and a good old chinwag. 

The park itself is absolutely stunning and provides the perfect backdrop for an Instagram worthy photoshoot 💁🏼 

Expenses for the day: 

Return travel for the day – £7 

Food for picnic – £7 

Leaving you with £6 spare – winning 

3. Visit bagel bake @ brick lane 

What do I say in Defense of the shoreditch hipsters ? If you can’t beat em, join em! 

THIS IS BY FAR THE BEST BAGEL PLACE EVER 

Mouth watering salted beef roll with juicy gherkins, Source: Google Images


You have to try their salted beef bagel they are infamous. 

Plus when you arrive in shoreditch there is usually some sort of free entertainment…… believe me you’ll make a day of it! 

Expenses for the day: 

Travel return – £7 

Salted beef bagel – £3.70 

4. Treat yourself 

Why not get a massage and pamper yourself? You work hard you deserve it. And you can still do this on a tight budget. 

Groupon often have deals on massages, I have found one based in London, which includes a 15 minute chair massage, eyebrow & upper lip threading for just £9

Amazing value. 

Expenses for the day: 

Massage – £9 

Travel return – £7 

Lunch – £4 (Tesco meal deal/optional) 

5. Go and see Shakespeare at the theatre

Too expensive?! Never say never. At the young vic in Waterloo tickets start at just £10 

You can be cultural and cheap if you try hard enough! 

Expenses for the day: 

Ticket – £10 

Travel – £3 (going to have to bus it this time as the budget is tight) 

Food – £7 (opt to find a local kebab shop after the show is finished) 
Enjoy London and enjoy saving! 

How to take flattering pictures even if you aren’t attractive 

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Like your Instagram profile is basically your portfolio these days. So of course, without sounding totally shallow and like a materialistic Bitch. You need to look good. Obviously there is more to life than looking good. But it’s just better if you do also happen to appear to look good. Don’t ask questions just go with it. 

Typically speaking I don’t have the most photogenic features and I really do understand the struggle to take a good pic, so over the years I have picked up a few fail safe tricks to ensure the perfect selfie prevails. 

Here’s my top tips; 

1. Flash is not your friend 

Listen, unless you are a professional photographer or you look like Angelina Jolie I would not use flash in any circumstance. Avoid it like the plague. It shows every little blemish

2. Natural 

Of course good lighting will make all the difference to a photo, and you can’t beat natural light. I often stand next to windows or in areas where you know there is good natural lighting. This may involve awkwardly moving around a bit with camera phone in hand, and shuffling until you find the right spot

3. Base 

Of course your face needs to look great off camera too before you even attempt to get a good selfie. What I do is tend to try and contour the areas I don’t like, for example my nose. I straighten it as much as possible with darker lines, on camera it will look much better. This is also where highlighter comes in, you can highlight the points you do want to accentuate 

4. Filters 

Sometimes it just takes the right angle and filter to make a photo great. I know this isn’t great photography and it’s not very innovative – but it’s just what you need sometimes. If you use one which makes you look perfect and flawless then why not? 

Happy selfie Sunday! 💕