The art of comparison: how Instagram is detrimental to female self-esteem 

opinion piece

I’ve had severe ups and downs with Instagram. It’s both my favourite and worst social media app. Because on the outside, it’s aesthetically pleasing to scroll through people’s seemingly perfect lives, perfect selfies, perfect food and their perfect relationships. But we often forget, usually, a huge amount of effort has gone into constructing these images. It’s fake.

As females we all have days where we are insecure. And unfortunately with social media girls of younger and younger ages are aware of their looks – and feeling an innate pressure to be conventionally attractive. Adhering to false beauty standards portrayed on social media. Now Instagram, being a visually based app – and thriving off of a like for like and comment for comment culture can breed self esteem issues.

Of course, it’s not a new concept for the media to convey unattainable beauty standards. This has been the case for traditional media platforms for most of cultural history, however the online realm; and in particular Instagram has accelerated this. Let me tell you why.

The app itself is, of course, irresponsible for a high increase in young girls developing mental health issues plagued by body image or self esteem. It’s how the app is used, and the nature of the characteristics of the app. It’s so fast moving, that users often feel pressure to upload. They have followers and ‘Insta celebrities’ they aspire to be like – and therefore this often breeds a competitive nature. Or a feeling of inferiority.

The art of comparison is what is killing our young girls souls. Scrolling through pretentious images, constructed for social validation. Comparing yourself to images that are fake. Comparing your life, your goals, your face, your ass and your entirety to someone you’ve never even met.

Possibly one of the worst things you can do in the cut throat world of Instagram is to compare. You must must must always stay grounded, remembering that most of these images are socially constructed. And even if they aren’t, everyone progresses at their own pace in life. You are doing great and that’s all you need to watch.

Survival of the fittest.

Dedicated follower of Instagram 

top tips

So like it’s totally acceptable to not have a typical 9-5 job and just pursue a career on Instagram right? 

How? I hear you say. However there are people who make serious money off of their Instagram fame, using thousands of followers to launch their own brand. 

Once you reach a certain amount of followers, brand ambassadors and independant companies may pay you to advertise their products. This is just the beginning. Before you know it, you could be sent free samples of new products, and get invited to exclusive premieres and launches. Not too shabby hey! Getting paid to be completely narcissistic and take constructed selfies all day sounds like an absolute dream to me. #lifegoals 

I only have 4K followers myself, which I guess is a decent amount. And often people ask how I’ve gained so many followers.. Here are my top tips: 

1. Get active 

Quite literally. You need to be as active as you possibly can on Instagram. Once you aren’t engaged you will lose followers faster than you can say bye Bitch 🖐🏻 

2. Be that girl 

Sometimes in life you have to lower your standards to get where you need to be. I’m not encouraging you to upload naked pictures or leak a sex tape (although I heard that works out successfully for some individuals!?). No, you need to be that sufficiently annoying girl that likes everyone’s pictures and leaves nicey nice comments. It’s the only way to get noticed and gain. Think of the gains!!! 

3. Tag team 

Tagging events you go to, using relevant hashtags & being tagged in other people’s pictures can also help. Especially if you go to a fairly big event, or you are with someone else who has a huge following on Instagram. This will also gain more followers. 

4. High maintenance 

Once you’ve gained like your first 1000 followers, it becomes second nature. You must must must upkeep and maintain your profile and activity. It’s no good posting once a month – you’ll be forgotten. If you can’t manage to post because of real life commitments, you just stay active and do what you can to keep the followers you do gain. 
Get gramming! Beware Instagram can be addictive. Remember it isn’t real life kids. ✌🏻️ (Follow me: @versaceblonde) 

Why females need to stop shaming each other 

opinion piece

We’ve all been there. Scrolling down your Facebook feed and you see a funny meme, it’s a little below the belt, but fuck it. You re-post it. ”Real men prefer curves” with a depiction of a skinny woman. For whatever reason it struck a cord with you, perhaps you were aiming it at someone you hate? Or maybe you are just highly opinionated and want to air your views. 

What I would like to understand is the pyschology behind posting ignorant, and most of the time, bitchy memes/indirects. 

Whatever your self justification may be. Any type of shaming is wrong. Just recently on social media I have noticed a lot of girls shaming other girls. Whether it be body shaming, slut shaming or even make up shaming (yes this is totally a thing now, and it’s just plain mean). It needs to stop. 

How can we expect men to respect us as a gender? When all we do is slate each other. 

If it’s because your insecure, jealous, or generally angry about something. It still doesn’t make it right. As a level headed person you need to deal with that internally, and discretely. Social media is not meant for airing your dirty laundry. 

Fair enough, I understand not everyone agrees on everything. We all have our individual opinions, and that’s fine. But spreading memes which shame others – particularly on attributes they cannot control / superficial attributes. It’s petty. 

And FYI. It makes you look like a mean girl. 

I believe we need more positivity between females, to encourage each other to grow, progress and succeed. Negativity creates boundaries, and segregation. Positivity unites. 💕